The Accidental Soberista by Kate Gunn

The Accidental Soberista - Kate Gunn

I know Kate Gunn the author of The Accidental Soberista. I know she’s Irish, I know she’s funny and that she likes a drink or two. She has had me creased laughing on more than one occasion with her witty one-liners; you can’t fail to smile when you’re in her company. Even when we were scaling Snowdon for charity she was a great laugh.

Climbing Snowdon with Team Honk

We’ve been connected online, for years. I have read about her life’s ups and downs as she has mine. I remember the first time I met her for real, it was at a BritMums conference and I was handing out the lanyards, I was so excited to finally meet her in person. We promised to catch up later and funnily enough, we bumped into each other at the bar of the after-party. We enjoyed sampling all of the drinks the sponsor had laid on for us and spent the evening with loads of blogging friends, laughing, joking, drinking, and having fun.

Yeah, I know Kate Gunn.

She has sent me her latest book to read and as I’ve always enjoyed reading Kate’s work, I settled down with a glass of chilled Pinot Grigio and opened the book up.

Kate has changed.

She no longer drinks alcohol.

Can you believe that?

What’s more, she’s raving about how bloody great she feels and how it’s the best decision she’s ever made! It’s sickening, marathons, triathlons, freezing cold water swims at sunrise…actually, that sounds really cool.

The Accidental Soberista

The Accidental Soberista starts – Chapter One My Drinking Career and Kate starts reeling off all of her worst drunken moments. So, as I am reading her worst moments, mine all come flooding back too, cheers Kate. But something’s different this time, as her story unfolds and mine plays out simultaneously, I see exactly what she is saying and ask myself over and over, why? Why did I do that? For what purpose? She has me hooked already and by the end of chapter one, there are lots of pages earmarked to return to, sentences that struck a chord deep inside me.

Kate writes beautifully. I have read many of her blogs, newspaper articles, and all sorts of Instagram posts, Tweets and Facebook updates. She has a way with words, they hit home in the solar plexus and, there’s no getting away from it, they stay with you and start to work slowly in the back of your mind. They find other similar thoughts and before you know it, you start to think about maybe trying her journey. I mean, she survived and just look how amazing she looks!

By sharing her experience of giving up alcohol, she enlightens you and shows you it’s not so bad after all. It’s actually easy and what’s more, she informs you how many benefits there are to giving up alcohol. You’ll be amazed.

The Accidental Soberista
Look at how many pages I have marked!

The 100-percent rule says that if you want to achieve personal success in any endeavor, you must be 100 percent committed to it. Jack Canfield, author of The Success Principles, famously wrote, “Successful people adhere to the ‘no exceptions rule‘ when it comes to their daily disciplines.

I started the book, thinking, ‘Yeah, I’ll read your book and leave an Amazon review with my thoughts,’ but by page 46, not even halfway through, I’ve added non-alcoholic wine and beer to my shopping delivery. Now, I don’t want you thinking I have already passed over to the other side. I have three half bottles of various gins, a bottle of Baileys left from Christmas, and plenty of wine still in the house. I’m dabbling. I’m going to try and see. My first goal is to get through a weekend (next weekend as I had one glass of wine last night – only one though). Kate touches on this point too (she would, wouldn’t she!) She believes in the 100% rule stating that a huge percentage of people who try to limit their drinking end up falling by the wayside at some point. I can see this and know it applies to me. I will happily start and at some point, I’ll have an ‘Oh, fu@k it’ moment and ruin my hard work.

I’m sober curious.

I want to be a good role model for my kids too. Kate talks a lot about parenting and children and how they look to us as they grow up and learn from us. I want them to see that they have a choice and drinking alcohol isn’t all it’s made out to be. I want to avoid them making idiots of themselves, or worse. I gave up smoking in 2003 and never looked back, and I was on 20 a day. I never thought it would be possible to give up but I did, that gives me faith that I could crack this too. There is still some work to do inside, in my head but Kate gives lots of tips on how to approach that too and what pitfuls to avoid. It might be because I have loved wine for so long, I struggle to imagine my life without it, like a best friend who has always been there.

If you do buy the book – and I promise you won’t regret it if you do – look at Page 139

Drinking alcohol increases the risk of mouth, upper throat, oesophageal, voice box, breast, bowel and liver cancer. Breast cancer is the most common of the alcohol-related cancer types.

As Kate says, why is no one telling us anything about this? I need to explore this further and she mentions other books that I have jotted down and intend to look up.

I am still in time and my guess is by the end of the book, I’ll find even more reasons to give up the booze for good.

I think I can do this. I’ll keep you posted.

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  1. Kate
    June 12, 2021 / 7:07 PM

    Wow Marianne – what a review! Thank you so much. It’s especially lovely to be reminded of all our connection points – we’ve come a long way! Thanks for all your lovely words, good luck in your next steps and dont be too hard on yourself either! I ADORE the photo of the book with all the notes!! ?

    • June 15, 2021 / 5:12 PM

      My pleasure Kate, you are an inspiration and your book is enlightening. Just what I needed.

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