I bought my wedding dress

When I imagined buying my wedding dress I automatically thought of my mother smiling on and nodding her head in approval or shaking her head with every wrong choice I made. I knew that having her there would mean I would come home with the perfect dress for me; after all the bride’s dress is an enormous part of the Big Day.

Jay Mountford - photographer

This is the lady I have chosen to be my photographer in her wedding dress! Photo credit Adrian Jones Photography

I also knew deep in my heart that my dress was not going to be high end budget. We are a a family now with so many outgoings that our priorities have changed. I cannot and will not spend the cost of a three week August holiday on a dress I am going to wear only one day. Fortunately the Great British High Street is the best in the world and we are spoilt for choice with dresses on offer, Monsoon, BHS, Phase Eight all have superb wedding dresses perfect for the occasion.

In fact I will admit to ‘popping in’ to these shops on various occasions to have a look at what’s on offer.

But it was the other day that I checked the rails and fell in love, instant pure love with the most beautiful dress. Just one problem I had two little people hanging on each arm moaning they were tired, bored and hungry – not the best combination for trying on wedding dresses.

I spoke to the assistant with a beautiful French accent and told her it was my dress but not the right time to try it on and begrudgingly I had to leave the shop and pray no one went in and bought my dress.

I went back a few days later, Other Half had taken a day off and I explained the importance of the occasion, I may have thrown in a 50% discount to make it even more essential that I visit that shop TODAY and I left him to take the girls for an ice-cream nearby whilst I spent some valuable Me time and tried on The Dress.

I entered the shop with an alarm clock in my head knowing he was waiting with the girls for me to return. I spoke to the assistant who recognised me and told her I had a very short amount of time available. She whipped down the dress and accompanied me to a dressing room, a small one as the other two were occupied by giggling girls trying on bridesmaids dresses.

Inside on my own I stripped and winced at the sight of myself in the enormous mirror, my passion of wine and chocolate clearly evident for all to see. I pulled on the dress and couldn’t to do the zip up!

Shit, It’s too small.

The French assistant sails by and zips me up ‘See, it fits.’ She says although I struggle to breath. She takes me out of the dressing room asks me to stand on a box and look in a mirror.

‘How will you be wearing your hair?’

How the hell do I know? ‘Up’ I say guessing.

She passes me a clip and I study myself in the unforgiving mirror.

It is so pretty, I love it but is it ok? Is it me or do I look an idiot in it?

I have no one to ask, no one to advise so I ask the giggling bridesmaid’s mum who is there.

‘It’s beautiful she says.’ but she would say that wouldn’t she? How would a stranger say ‘No love, not for you.’?

I point at my extruding tummy.

‘Spanx.’ she replies and then she shuffles her bridesmaids out of the shop quickly telling the assistant ‘ It’s not till 2014 anyway’

Ok I’ll take it.’ I say.

I buy it and as I walk away from the shop I am filled with doubt, every step increasing the insecurity until by the time I reach Other Half and my girls I am quite uncertain of the purchase I have just made.

If only I could try it on and get your TRUE opinion but can you give a true opinion or do you give the one that is wanted to be heard?

If I had taken you along would you have been able to advise me properly?

Image kindly lent by Jay Mountford who will be our wedding photographer and making very special memories of our day, nip over and see her work it’s amazing more to come on her very soon. Photo credit goes to Adrian Jones photography


  1. Lou @ SunnySide
    November 10, 2012 / 7:47 AM

    I got married to Steven in jeans and a casual top, in our back yard!
    I do understand your pain, but i have learned over the years that your first instincts are usually bang on – so I would stop worrying, try the dress on for a friend, and get an honest opinion.

    i am sure it is stunning :-)

    • Mari
      November 10, 2012 / 9:22 AM

      Thanks and yes you’re right I must stop worrying and be more positive. Jeans and top in the back yard sounds such a fab way to celebrate

  2. Amy wilders
    November 10, 2012 / 8:01 AM

    I’m sure it looks stunning Marianne. Invest in some decent “Bridget jones” knickers for your tummy and it’ll be fine. Looking forward to seeing you in it x x

    • Mari
      November 10, 2012 / 9:21 AM

      Spanx all the way Amy :) xx

  3. Gill Crawshaw
    November 10, 2012 / 10:45 AM

    Go with your gut instinct – you loved it, so bet it looks brilliant. Plus I think it’s a universal thing that all brides look lovely on their wedding day :-)

  4. November 10, 2012 / 11:02 AM

    I bet you are going to look gorgeous Mari! Trust your instincts, you instantly loved it…so it means its ‘the one’. I had the same feeling with my wedding dress back in 89…I was anxious though because when I tried it on I had just found out I was expecting my first baby, the wedding was 11 wks away and I didnt know how much my tummy would expand by then. It fitted perfectly on the day and looking back at the photos, I think my instinct was right, that dress was ‘the one’ for me. Yours will be too xxx

  5. Kelly Innes
    November 10, 2012 / 11:38 AM

    You found one! Awesome.Love it when you just ‘know’

  6. coombemill
    November 10, 2012 / 12:31 PM

    Bet it will be dazzling, how exciting! Everything I see of Jay’s as fab so wise choice on the photographer too! Have to work on that ‘up hair’ now!

  7. November 11, 2012 / 3:32 PM

    I bet it’s perfect. I reckon all of us have that niggling “are we 100% sure it’s the right dress” feeling, especially as you know you are not going to be wearing one again, well hopefully not anyway! :) xx

  8. AModernMother
    November 11, 2012 / 4:54 PM

    I bought 6 wedding dresses off Ebay. Rejected 4 and kept 2 to decide between on the day. Then the one I decided on did not fit! But that was the one I thought Mum would like most so in the end I got married in the one I liked most which is probably as it should be. Congrats Mari.

  9. Funky Wellies
    November 11, 2012 / 9:56 PM

    I cannot wait to see the photos! If you loved it at first sight, then it must be right. xx

  10. November 12, 2012 / 10:50 AM

    Yes I’d give an honest opinion. Mammywoo has been putting pictures of her trying on dresses on Instagram and I’m completely honest with her. You will look beautiful, you know what suits you and what doesn’t. Can’t wait to see the pictures.

  11. MsXpat
    November 14, 2012 / 6:50 PM

    If you can get into in with Spanx it means depending on the date you can up the anti on exercise :0) I paid £120 for my dress in Finsbury, North London, Fonthill road to be exact and the pics don’t do it justice for all the fine beads etc. It was love at first sight when I saw it but like you the tummy area was concern so I went to gym like a beast AND got myself support pants from Debenhams.
    Exciting times Mari! I’m sure you’ll look amazing :0) Fear not

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