Save the date – we’re getting married!

save the date“There is never a time or place for true love. It happens accidentally in a heartbeat, in a single flashing, throbbing moment.’ Sarah Dessen – The Truth About Forever

Who’d ever have said it? We’re getting married! Seven months from now

We’ve been engaged for a long time now since spring 2006 to be precise when we were in the midst of our Trying To Conceive phase, it was a commitment we made with the idea of one day, maybe, tying the knot but in the meantime I had a nice shiny ring on my finger and an oath of love from my man.

Having been married once and seen how a love story can all fall to pieces in a heartbeat, having witnessed the complete change of feelings that happen between two people once the love has gone. I am scared to go through it all again. The amount of ‘What if’s?’ badgering my brain are frightening but we are taking the step and doing it.

A decision that came around in quite a sneaky way really, we had saved up to do a Big Building Job in the home which I had my eye on before even buying the property. It’s going to be expensive and the quotes coming in confirmed that and Paul jokingly said one day ‘New kitchen or wedding? You can only have one.’

words of love

That thought has bounced around ever since, did we need to be married?

No not really, we’re quite happy as we are and trust one another implicitly. Plus I really don’t think I’d have the strength to go through all the heartache of divorce another time so go get a fab new kitchen. But something was holding me back and for the life of me I can’t put it into words all I know is that we are doing the right thing and even though weddings cost a fortune, it has to be done.

ideal kitchen


It is annoying that getting married is going to swallow up all my kitchen fund but hey-ho, what can you do? Our choice has been made and the kitchen will have to wait.

Here’s my Pinterest Kitchen board for future reference *sigh*

Dream kitchen

However I don’t intend spending a fortune on details that I consider superfluous, my aim is to have a great wedding, a memorable day for everyone and some great memories for us to look back on in years to come so I’m going to document our progress. It’ll give me a chance to chat about it but obviously I can’t show you my final choices as that would ruin the day, so I’ll give ideas as to what I may go with, show you things that have inspired me.

I have a whole collection of ideas on my Pinterest Wedding board follow it to keep up to date on my great finds.

Pinterest boards

Save the date

Starting point? The venue, you can’t do anything until the venue has been booked. We went to see this place which I had heard about through our plumber! In fact it’s the only place we looked at, a bit like buying a property we walked in, mum came with us too and it just felt perfect. It had everything we were looking for and more!

Since we’ve booked up and started telling people it seems loads of people have got married there and had fabulous days. The food was great and the service was excellent, how comforting is that? After all, the venue will be the most costly part of our wedding and therefore make or break the day.

Of course I can’t tell you where it is yet until the invites have gone out. It just wouldn’t be fair ;)



  1. August 9, 2012 / 8:16 AM

    What wonderful news, Mari! A very exciting few months for you coming up – enjoy!

    • Mari
      August 10, 2012 / 8:18 PM

      Thanks Trish, exciting indeed but first to write all the envelopes by hand…. :)

  2. August 9, 2012 / 8:28 AM

    How exciting! We’re approaching our 1st wedding anniversary and I can’t believe that amazing day was almost a year ago. You have it all still to come – it’ll be amazing! I know what you mean about getting “that” feeling when you see the venue. Lots of people laughed at our choice to go with the first place we saw but it was so perfect I knew nowhere else would compete. Good luck – and enjoy the run up! x

    • Mari
      August 10, 2012 / 8:20 PM

      Have you seen Feisty Tapas memory box? It’s a brilliant idea and one I have asked my niece to do for me. It’s a great way of continuing the fun year after year.
      Thanks Molly and happy anniversary xx

  3. Tracy
    August 9, 2012 / 9:01 AM

    Marie – use your wedding pressie money towards a new kitchen – then you get both.  How exciting.

    • Mari
      August 10, 2012 / 8:21 PM

      Ha ha! I did think that too but having lived together for so long all of our stuff is used and old I’m going to get some beautiful pieces that we will never buy if left to our own devices. A beautiful dinner set, a new cutlery canteen and who knows what else? xx

  4. August 9, 2012 / 3:38 PM

    CONGRATULATIONS MARIANNE! My wife and I had both been married before and finally tied the knot again two years ago – after eight years and 2.5 kids together. It was, undoubtedly, the best decision SHE ever made :) 

    • Mari
      August 10, 2012 / 8:22 PM

      You sure got yourself an intelligent lady eh? Thank you so much for my comment having been there yourselves, you know and understand the trepidation that in reality is so unnecessary.

  5. Lou@SunnySide
    August 9, 2012 / 3:55 PM

    Congratulations! Truly wonderful news and I ma sure you will make your day the most fantastic it can be. Have to say I was apprehensive about marrying again after my ordeal with the last one, but it was simply the best decision I ever made, and I am sure you will say the same!

    Once again congrats :-)

    • Mari
      August 10, 2012 / 8:23 PM

      How fabulous to be reading all these positive comments, thank you for passing by and may you spend the rest of your lives happy and in love <3

  6. August 9, 2012 / 6:19 PM

    Congratulations – what lovely news :)

    • Mari
      August 10, 2012 / 8:23 PM

      Thank you lovely, I’m getting a little bit excited now although it’s a long way off yet

  7. August 9, 2012 / 11:02 PM

    Congratulations, Mari! Wonderful news, so happy for you (but a tiny bit sad about the kitchen…only joking) x

    • Mari
      August 10, 2012 / 8:25 PM

      I’m devastated about the kitchen! It’s going to take another 3 years at least as my kitchen in actually smashing down walls and moving it to another area. (Never do things by half me)
      Thank you lovely, we’ll have to organise a Google + hen night with wine ;) Now that would be fun!

  8. Alessandra
    August 10, 2012 / 9:52 AM

    Enjoy all the choosing, planning, buying and then the BIG DAY itself, the kitchen will come too, in due course!! Bacioni xxx

    • Mari
      August 10, 2012 / 8:26 PM

      Thank you Alessandra, once the girls start school in Sept I should be able to come to London more often so I will keep my promise of that date we had in mind xx

  9. Dawndacre
    August 11, 2012 / 7:28 AM

    Congratulations to you , me and my other half intend to marry next year as well weve decided a 15 years engagement is long enough, xx

  10. August 12, 2012 / 10:51 AM

    Congratulations. I love weddings. Wish I could have another wedding day but I’ve got a feeling that my husband wouldn’t be happy with that ;)

  11. August 13, 2012 / 1:15 PM

    Congratulations, I am very happy for you, even if it means having to wait for your dream kitchen! :) xx

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