Gut instinct, what’s yours telling you?

Can you rely on your gut instinct to be honest with you?

I have had many feelings about people, situations or even the more banal aspects of life over the years.

For example, I knew back in 2001, when I got back with my ex husband after another separation, I knew it would be him to leave me for another woman even though at the time I had no idea where that notion came from and even told myself to stop being silly and pessimistic. I knew ‘in my gut’ that I had to stay put and wait it out.

In 2003 I discovered he was having an affair with the bar maid who worked in our hotel and he took the decision to break us up for good. My gut instinct had been right.

Again when I moved back to England, I knew Paul was my man after seeing him just once and I tried my best to avoid it coming true. I argued with myself, I told myself I wasn’t even interested in him. I’d look out of my back window into his garden and just know I’d end up living there without knowing how, why, when or any other significant detail. That was August, end of February I moved in with him! Gut Instinct won again but whose is that voice?

I have no idea where these notions come from but I do know they will come true and this fact is both fascinating and at times unsettling. On many occasions I have argued with myself over a prediction telling myself to not be so absurd and yet time once again proves me ‘I’ was right.

So where does that voice come from? Why, sometimes, can it be heard so clearly and at others not at all?

Do you ever meet a new person and take an instant dislike to them for unfathomable reason other than call it a gut reaction?

It happened many, many times with people my ex would meet. It happened so often that I began to think I was paranoid, jealous and slightly mad? What is wrong with me? I would ask myself but as time passed slowly I would see that I was right. The people I had had ‘feelings’ about revealed themselves to be less loyal than they had made out.

So I started to trust this instinct more and more.

Is it a universal pool we can all tap into? Could it be someone we have met in a past life and as they brush our current life we get a memory budge – karma? Or maybe our guardian angel putting us on the right track every now and then?

Have you had any feelings or gut reactions that are totally inexplicable?



  1. Heather
    February 22, 2010 / 5:10 PM

    I try to follow my gut as much as I can and do believe that we have these instincts. i have no idea where they come from or what they are though.

    When I met my husband for the first time I knew he was the one. It wasn’t a big musical flashing lights moment, it wasn’t love at first sight, it wasn’t even lust at first sight, I just knew. Can’t explain it anymore than that really. All very strange

  2. Natural Mummy
    February 22, 2010 / 9:22 PM

    I’m learning to trust my gut more as I get older. It happened with me over the house we live in now – I saw it in the paper and drove past it to look at even though at the time we were buying somewhere else. Why was I even looking? I just knew we’d end up here…

  3. Glenda
    June 21, 2012 / 7:16 AM

    Sometimes yes. Generally I know the good from the bad and I can always tell when I’m going to get along with someone, but I’m often sucked in by lies, where’s my gut instinct then?

  4. Mama makes
    June 21, 2012 / 8:05 AM

    It happens to me quite a lot. Sometimes I struggle to follow it and when I ignore I kick myself so hard. I had it when I met my Hubby and he said he knew the minute he first saw me that we would marry. I get instant gut instincts when I meet people and over the years when Ive ignored my initial feelings (Which I used to do a lot) I have regretted it.

    I’m not sure where it comes from but I think maybe many many years ago during our hunter gatherer days that maybe instinct was a much stronger sense that we relied on for survival and as civilisation has progressed, our instincts have become muffled.

    Over the years during times that I have meditated and tried to tap into my spiritual side, my instincts become much stronger and that just convinces me more that it is a mental tool we once used. I’d like to think its a guardian angel but Im not so sure, I think its more likely just an old sense we once had.

  5. June 21, 2012 / 11:19 AM

    When I met my fiance, I had a lot of decisions to make and I am pleased to say that I have made the right decisions.

  6. June 21, 2012 / 7:50 PM

    The few times I did NOT follow my gut instinct, it was a mistake. I have learned my lesson! Great post. xx

  7. Martha Love
    June 21, 2012 / 9:52 PM

    Thank you for your story, Mari. I think it is so helpful for people to open up and discuss how they follow their gut instincts. I have been studying gut instincts for over 40 years with hundreds of people. Back in the 70s, when I was a career counselor, I discovered that the key to helping people get to know who they really are and then make healthy career decisions from that knowing (rather than say from what they thought their parents or peers would want them to be in life or just what was most available to study) was in focusing and then reflecting on how they felt in their guts. Most people found (including myself) that this type of gut feeling listening was new and that the gut has a very quiet voice, but that when we begin to listen to it, we also find it holds the key to memories of the impact of our past upon us. This gut memory has recently been researched and found that it does inform us of possible outcomes for similar situations in the future, often more useful to us than our logical head ideas. I have written a book on the intelligence of the gut instincts and think you might find it useful and enjoyable in exploring and understanding your gut instincts, as well as learning how to reduce stress by reflecting on them to clear emotional baggage. It is called “What’s Behind Your Belly Button?’ on Amazon.

  8. Carol Read
    June 24, 2012 / 1:21 PM

    I have gut instincts but keep them to myself for a while and when asked say I’m reserving my judgement Time proves a gut instinct to be true    Carol Read

    • Mari
      July 4, 2012 / 4:34 PM

      Hello you, I hope you’re well and thanks so much for commenting here. Love to all the family xxx

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