Happy memories: best buddies, friends and Yosemite

The Gallery time again today and Tara has set this weeks theme as A Happy Memory which of course meant going back through the albums, a past time I love to be honest. My photo albums go right back to when I first met my ex, documenting the birth of both of our children, our wedding, our holidays, our days out as a family and of course include lovely memories but each one leaves a bitter sweet taste in my mouth when I think of how it all ended so I had to look harder and I came up with this as the moment I saw it my heart strings started playing and my mind was taken back


I look at this photo and I miss her so much. She is my friend Enrica, probably my best friend. I’ve known her since … I can’t pinpoint when she first came into my life but she’s seen both of my children grow up, she’s been there for me when my marriage broke down picking up all the pieces that were the broken me and she did her goddamn best to put me all back together. We have laughed together, we have cried together and we’ve even sent the whole wide world ‘You know where’ together when times got really really tough.

The real beauty of our friendship lies in the fact we can talk to each other, many a time we’ve had to sit the other down and tell her, ‘This is not good, it/you can’t do this and it needs changing.’ probably one of the hardest tasks a friendship asks of you, complete and utter honesty. Not everyone is able to talk openly and not everyone is able to accept truth especially if it comes under the umbrella of criticism. But Eri and I can. We crossed that hurdle years ago and even now when we catch up (which sadly is very rarely) we pick up exactly where we left off.

There are people who don’t like my friend, my ex was one of them, mind you he hated anyone getting close to me and befriending me. He once was very cruel and told her things that apparently I had said about her and she was very upset, our friendship took a massive knock and it took a hell of a fight from me to try and prove his words were lies, thankfully we made up and from that moment onwards we vowed that if ever there was something to say between us we would do just that.

It works. I can go months without speaking to her or emailing, or even contact via Facebook but when we meet we share a bear hug, a glass of wine (or two) and we’re back on track like not even a day went by. The last time we met was in London last autumn and now we’re concocting a plan to see if we can organise an Italian meet in the new year.


Here we are again celebrating another friends’ Hen Night a good few years ago. Of course if I had to declare who is my very best friend of all well that’s easy

Yosemite National park

It’s always Paul. The man who sticks by me in thick and in thin. He’s certainly not afraid to tell me his thoughts! Here Paul is against the breathtaking backdrop that is the Yosemite National Park – now don’t be an idiot like me and pronounce it like a jar of marmite, it’s Yo-se-mi-te. I’ll save you that embarrassment as I have been there and done it for you :) This was a three week break to the USA and this stop was in the gorgeous national park which really deserves more attention that it’s getting here, a holiday that we both enjoyed immensely and talked about for years after and I’m sure for years to come.

I am lucky to have these wonderful memories, these lovely people in my life and I look forward to sharing many many more memories with them. Head over to Sticky Fingers to see what everyone else came up with today.

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  1. Jenny Paulin
    September 14, 2011 / 1:10 PM

    I have an array of Wonderful memories of my best friends and me too. Too many to say really, so you did well here! I think it’s great that Paul is your best friend too, I wish my OH was mine but he isn’t .
    Great flashback photos you have included there too :) xx

    • Mari
      September 14, 2011 / 6:20 PM

      Friends really are the icing on the cake aren’t they, I always look forward to spending time with mine.

  2. September 14, 2011 / 1:30 PM

    Lovely post! I have been to Yosemite too, its beautiful! xx

    • Mari
      September 14, 2011 / 6:21 PM

      I’d pay gold to go back there, it was a fabulous experience, mind you…you probably would need gold to go back these days! Damn recession

  3. Alessandra
    September 14, 2011 / 1:56 PM

    Thank goodness for friends, they are so important and the older you get and the more you realise how fundamental they are in our life. They are there to pick us up when we fall, to put us together when lovers tear us apart, to cheer and celebrate with us, to cry and mourn with us, to do silly things and to debate important issues….together with our families, friends are the most precious people we have. Let’s celebrate them xxx

  4. Multiple Mummy
    September 14, 2011 / 3:29 PM

    It is so true that real friends are those you can’t see for ages but spoke as if you saw each other yesterday. They are the friends to keep! They say friends are the family you choose for yourselves. x

    • Mari
      September 14, 2011 / 6:22 PM

      What a lovely saying! I love that. it would be lovely to think Eri and I will sit down in our old age and reminisce together, she’ll be drinking expresso coffee and me tea :)

  5. Frankie Parker
    September 14, 2011 / 5:06 PM

    I didn’t recognised you at first with blonde hair, looks good..

    True friends are amazing, they love you unconditional and will always be there to pick up the pieces… Lovely post x

    • Mari
      September 14, 2011 / 6:23 PM

      It does look blonde there but it was actually multicoloured streaks alla ‘Ginger Spice’ remember those days? I don’t think it would suit me anymore though – aged too much :)

  6. Linda (Have a Lovely Time)
    September 14, 2011 / 5:54 PM

    Such lovely pictures and memories to share. I have experienced the opposite – the breakdown of a friendship and it can be as painful as the breakdown of any other relationship – sorry stating the obvious. But looking at what you have written here makes me realise how much we value our friends and perhaps I should tell my friends that more. xx

  7. Mari
    September 14, 2011 / 6:26 PM

    Hello Linda, Lovely to see you over here.
    I think we’ve all suffered at some point a loss of a friendship and as you say it is incredibly painful, in this case I was able to get our friendship back on track and it became even stronger than before, it added something more. And yes maybe we should tell our friends more often how special they are, you’re right, only they’d probably get embarrassed and thump your arm and tell you to push off or something, don’t you think?

  8. September 14, 2011 / 6:52 PM

    Lovely photos and tales to go along with them. I’ve not been to Yosemite but it’s on my list of places to see one day.

  9. September 14, 2011 / 7:00 PM

    You can’t beat good friends, it’s such a shame that people have to leave it so long before being able to meet up again isn’t it.

  10. mum2babyinsomniac
    September 14, 2011 / 8:12 PM

    You know they are lifelong friends when you can go for months without contact but then just pick up from where you left off. I have four friends that I went to secondary school with and I know that we will always be friends – it’s such a nice thing to have x

  11. September 14, 2011 / 8:10 PM

    What lovely happy photos – a best friend is the best gift in the world, don’t you think? And you seem to have a few x

  12. September 14, 2011 / 8:12 PM

    A reflective post. Nice to see your tribute to Paul but your words and pics about your friend are amazing. Love the first one an the exuberance in the second is fab too.

  13. Rebecca English
    September 14, 2011 / 9:25 PM

    A lovely post. I think of my husband as my best friend too – but it’s great to have female friends as well. You can share different things with them which your husband sometimes isn’t interested in.

  14. September 14, 2011 / 9:36 PM

    simle make happy memories don’t they?! Brill!

  15. SAHMlovingit
    September 16, 2011 / 11:14 AM

    This is so lovely Mari, so many lovely happy photos and memories. I love that photo of you and Enrica, you look so happy and content (and maybe a little drunk!)

    Friends really are the best!

    • Mari
      September 16, 2011 / 5:41 PM

      Errr, maybe a bit tipsy yes but happily so on that occasion. Friends really are the best, yes xx

  16. Carol
    September 20, 2011 / 9:03 AM

    Happy memories always come to the surface – keep them at the top, it’s good for the soul!

  17. Livi
    October 2, 2011 / 9:40 AM

    You’re very luck to have such fantastic friends, they’re hard to come by. Beautiful memories to share :)

    p.s. you look KNOCK OUT in that top picture!

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