wise words for wedding9th March was the day we chose to tie the knot and seal our love; I’ve been talking about it for months now and now it’s all over I can share with you my decisions and my how-to’s too and some wise words from The Boy and Me a week before above :)

But first – our wedding day! I have to write it down so I can re-read if forever because it was the most special day and I’m still re-living the moments in my head all the time.

Unlike tradition, Paul and I spent the night before together… and he tossed and he turned and he fidgeted, waking up at 4.30am, 5am and then again at 5.30am by which time I couldn’t get back to sleep as all the preparations and things that needed doing started to fill my mind. So brides to be reading this DO spend your last night apart, you’ll get a better night’s sleep trust me.

making waves for alex

I decided to start my day wearing something blue to bring good luck so I chose my Making Waves for Alex t-shirt as so much love was coming in from Facebook, Twitter and Instagram I wanted to re-direct this abundance on to Tamsyn who is fighting so hard, please read her story and support her battle.

At 9.30 Megan and I set off to the hairdressers’s and we didn’t get back to the house until almost 11. We were supposed to be checking in at Little Hermitage at 11.30 so just time for a quick Full English as we wouldn’t be sitting down until gone 3pm we tumbled the three little girls in the car and set off for destination.

bridal hair

On arrival Jay Mountford was there with her assistant for the day @matthewpaulgray and greeted me with a bear hug, Oliver Kiel, my video man was there too and everyone looked really excited so I started to panic a bit inside. I had one hour and a half to pull it together and my main worry was the girls – how do you keep three under 5’s amused for that period of time trapped in a bedroom?


Megan did their hair and we dressed them and then we had to do all their hair again as running around and rolling on the beds with LeapPads hadn’t been such a good idea. Jay came in took props and left the room chirpily ‘I’ll bring it back in a minute’. Off went the bouquet, off went the dress ‘Don’t put it on till the last 15 minutes.’ she told me. That was a toughie but probably a good idea and off went the shoes but as the images start to come through they’re taking my breath away, take a look at Jay’s sneak peeks they are FABULOUS.

Then it was time, Dee my brother was to give me away as dad was no longer with us to do so, Rosie his beautiful daughter was my chief bridesmaid and keeping an eye on the three little angels Alice, Bessie and Gracey directing them to their seats and being ‘Big Sister’ to them all in one go.

4 bridesmaids

The ceremony flew by and felt very surreal, we exchanged rings, we kissed and we started the laughter and celebrations that would be with us all day. Since I stepped on the top stair to descend into the room where the ceremony was being held I hadn’t stopped smiling and when I woke up the next morning that smile was still there.

happy bride

This time round, rather than choose a friend to be my witness I asked my other brother Dom. I wanted to make sure this was a family occasion and my most favourite people would be important factors in my day. PLUS Billy, Dee’s son aged 11 did an excellent reading for us. In front of a whole room of strangers he stood up and read loud and clearly The Magic of Love to us all. Bravo Billy.

Every single thought Paul and I had had for our special day was coming together, the menu’s Jean had printed by hand looked fabulous, her table plan was utter genius and her help with my Bags of Happiness were a real hit too, One guest said and I quote ‘best wedding favour ever’ so watch out for my How to post to follow soon.

wedding table

Meal, speeches by Dee, Paul and finally Dave. ALL of them were brilliant and they did an excellent job.

wedding cake

Then it was time to cut the cake, my mum made it. Isn’t she clever? First dance upstairs which some friends (who had slipped down to the bar) missed so we had another First Dance downstairs. Evening guests arriving

first dance

Photos, portraits, dancing and laughing, lots and lots of laughing.

A very, very special thank you to our family travelling all the way from Spain it was so lovely to see you all again. Our family from Italy, the day wouldn’t have been the same without you and my friends Alessia and Demis also coming in from Italy to celebrate us and giving up a weekend for us.

Images courtesy of Alessia Leitempergher, Oana Dascalul and Nicole Davis plus a couple of my own

Now there’s an interesting thought and one Paul and I had initially discarded as we just wanted to get married, no frills – no wedding videographer. We weren’t even going to have a photographer and you all know whatJay Mountford thought of that!

Should you have your wedding filmed?

It wasn’t until an email landed in my inbox from one of my twin dads that we actually started to contemplate the idea again. Oliver Kiell is a professional wedding videographer, something I never knew whilst we were chasing our twins around the centre every Wednesday morning whilst trying to drink a coffee that was still hot and have an adult conversation.

Paul was a flat ‘No. I don’t want a camera in my face all day. It will look false.’

End of.

Until Paul took the girls to their Saturday morning swimming lesson and chatting with one of the mums whilst they waited for our little champions to learn to float, he told her we are getting married and organising the wedding, perfect conversation for the swimming baths at 8am!

Anyway she said her biggest regret was not having a film of the day made! Resulting in a reluctant spouse agreeing. Yipppee!

Focus 1 media Reel Love! wedding reel from Oliver Kiell on Vimeo.

Oliver has been a camerman for 10 years and in that time has filmed fashion, sports, award shows and castings for TV, films and commercials. He set up Focus 1 Media – Reel love! to exclusively shoot wedding films.

I asked Oliver why should a couple have their wedding filmed and he said,

Having a professionally produced wedding DVD is one of the best decisions you can make. Your day will be full of excitement, romance and energy. I make sure I capture the amusing, spontaneous and unique moments. I only have one chance so I make sure my camera is in the right place at the right time, but I ensure I keep myself well out of the way so you and your guests feel at ease

Oliver shoots and edits your special day to a music soundtrack of your choice, carefully crafting special memories that he has captured through his lens for you to remember. His website is full of information and there are different packages offered to suit your needs so head on over and take a look.

So next question is – which soundtrack? More on music next week