More than a Mum

More than a mum is the place I save everything that doesn’t fall into the Travel, Food and Lifestyle buckets. It’s all those little things that go into my life and make me the person I am. Expect to find, fashion, beauty, photography, hobbies and anything else that is another part of me that I thought you might be interested in.

I can’t ignore this atrocityand write about something trivial going on in my life. The message here is far too important to be sidestepped.

Two young lads who haven’t even reached their teens are to be locked away for torturing, sexually abusing and almost killing another two similar aged children.

5 years they got and yet it doesn’t seem enough to me.

This kind of news seems to come on a cyclical basis. Who can forget the two 10 year old boys that took Jamie Bulger (a toddler who bored of waiting for his mum wandered out of the shop into the Merseyside shopping mall,)  in 1993 walked him to a train track where they tortured him and left him for dead?

But it’s the phrase ‘Lessons must be learnt from this’ coming from the social services in Doncaster that runs shivers up my spine. Why haven’t we already learnt from them? Haven’t there been enough cases to ensure we’re straight on the case the minute we have an inkling that a young child is becoming a threat to society? 31 missed opportunities to intervene in the two brother’s lives – that says it all.

And although the anger I feel towards these boys is immense and I’m happy they are going inside for a long time there is a part of me which also feels incredibly sorry for them. Sorry that they were born to parents who really couldn’t care less, who ruined them by not loving them and nurturing them as all children should have the right. I’m sorry that the social services didn’t pick up on it much earlier and take these boys and put them in families where they could have had a better chance at life. God knows there are enough people trying to adopt children on our costly and bureaucratic adoption system!

When something dreadful like this happens we, as a society, should take responsibility and not turn the other cheek. It’s a message that cannot be ignored. We must make it a priority to ensure that all children in the UK are being looked after properly, being loved and their needs taken care of so one day we can have a happy world governed by respect, love and intelligence. Or is this Utopia?

And why can’t we make the useless parents responsible for this? Why shouldn’t they pay for their ignorance?

Reading an article in Woman and Home for February 2010, Fiona Wright contacted future forecast agencies and asked them what can women expect in 2010?

Very interesting as apparently we will come into our own at long last. No more juggling family, career and all the various sectors that make up our busy multi tasking lives but women friendly work environments.

Also we can finally expect to become more respected in the workplace and no longer play second place to our male colleagues. (Sounds too good to be true doesn’t it?) But it looks like managers worldwide (well UK and USA that’s a good start) are finally accepting that we are important resources and our needs are better listened to rather than ignored or brushed under the carpet with a like it or lose your job attuitude.

To quote Dorothy Mackenzie co founder of Dragon Rouge and regular speaker on consumer trends, forecasting and marketing strategy. ‘The 45 plus group of women is the fastest growing in the population and therefore, in terms of consumer marketing. They have a large contribution to make in the workplace and money to spend. Retailers are starting to direct fashion and products to the grown up woman.

Good news!

The article goes on to mention Soft Skilling – Tom Savigar, Strategy and Insight director at The Future Laboraory uses the expression and says women will dominate the corporate structure, so decision making will change. Collaboration and social neworks will be key, and men will have to learn a different way of thinking to make sense of this new world.  He also warns us to get ready for the Women’s Web as, although a male invention, it’s rapidly becoming very feminised, empathetic and intuitive. Even  technologies and search engine techniques are increasingly using female right brain attitudes.

Yippee, having been made redundant from my last job in a publishing company on finding out I was pregnant with twins I feel very strongly about this topic. Although my ex boss managed to cover up the redundancy under a cost and performance issue it was blatantly obvious that he wanted rid of me to avoid paying maternity. The moment my colleague whispered to him my situation I was out… Lesson learnt – NEVER trust a colleague, especially the office bitch. What was I thinking?

Anyway, very inspiring as I am in that particular age bracket, I’m ready to return to the world of work once again and I’m going it alone, so bring it on!

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I had a vivid dream last night that woke me up and made me question if and what was the message behind it all?

I dreamt that our house had been broken into which is a frightening thought.

Paul and I were carrying a twin each from the car, both were asleep in our arms and to get to the house we had to step over a lot of luggage and belongings strewn all over the grass and walkways  of a family who had just returned from their holiday and were unloading their car. A right mess!

Once inside the house I found the back door unlocked, the kitchen window open and found my jacket in a place I would never leave it. The bathroom window had been pushed out of the frame and on inspecting it I got glass splinters in my hand. The feeling of violation was immense and the dread of what else we would find was incredibly strong.

Funny how in a dream it’s never your ‘real’ house but you know it’s yours?

I lay awake for quite some time afterwards thinking and worrying as back in the autumn, we had put an offer on a lovely 4 bed house where we’d ideally like to move to and I had the same dream of having the house broken into but nothing stolen. Strangely enough that very same day I received a call from the estate agents to say they’d put forward another like for like offer on the property from another customer which had been accepted and they were in a position to move immediately. So that house was gone and there was the meaning of my dream translated into the every day world!

So is this a repeat message? We have had an offer on a 5 bed house since late November and so far haven’t been beaten, but it’s a lovely property and I’m sure if we don’t sell soon we will lose it.

The strangest thing is, should my dream once again point to an outcome as mentioned above, I would be strangely happy that my dreams were hidden messages and at the same time devastated with the news.