I started 2013 knowing it was going to be a year filled with joy and laughter, there was to be a wedding, our wedding, holidays at Butlins, in France and a trip to Guernsey. I also knew that the tiny things in life are also special and one day I came across a fabulous idea – a Memory Jar.
What is a memory jar?
A Memory Jar is where you keep all the positive things that happen throughout your year. You pile them all in and at the end of the year you spend a little time and look back on what you have done and achieved. You re-read the funny things your children say, you relive the shows and films you went to through the ticket stubs, gasp again at the size of that cream tea you devoured on a bank holiday through a photo. Anything that meant something to you in a certain place at a certain time during the year, add a memory.
How do I make a memory jar?
Anything will do that will contain your memories, a glass jar with a colourful ribbon tied at the top? For 2013 I was late to the party, I didn’t have time to go out and get a jar so I finished off a box of my favourite Salted Caramel chocolates – a memory in itself – and started using that with every intention of changing further down the line. But I never got round to it
We’ve just had Christmas, if you don’t have a glass jar to hand, don’t panic, an empty tin, tea caddy, chocolate box will do. Something you can put in an accessible place and add bits as you go through your year.
There will be quieter times of the year when you have time to sit down and write notes and other moments will be frenetic where you stuff bits in with every intention of going back later and ‘tidying’ them up. Does it matter? You decide. I never tidied mine up and I did realise towards October that my box was too small. So get yourself a BIG container and start saving memories.
Can I just say put it somewhere that will nudge your memory to use it, kitchen window sill? Bedside table? A place you visit frequently.
Sometimes life can throw us a rough hand and everything seems to take on a grey hue, this will help you pick out the bits that are good and by focusing on them and not the grey you can see that life is good if you know where to look.
What shall I put in my jar?
I won’t run you through my entire year but here are my top memories that bring joy to me re-reading them
Post it notes with short written memories ie 1st Jan -
Funny things the kids say
Beautiful places you have been too
A lock of your husbands hair? A fallen button off his shirt (I didn’t get either if these in 2013 by the way)
A train ticket from the time he took you to a show.
An acorn – I have an acorn from a walk we did in the autumn in Camer Park close by looking for conkers, there were none left but I did come home with an acorn.
Flower petals from a bouquet or the apple tree you planted.
The name of that fantastic book that really touched you