I’ve been watching the Nigella Lawson saga and rooting for that woman ever since I saw photos of her sad face and her husband’s hands around her throat back in the summer.
‘Leave him!’ I advised her. ‘Get out of that misery!’ I urged from the comfort of my happy home. But with a divorce behind me I know it’s not that simple and there are a myriad of emotions at play when a couple break up and try to move on.
In any separation, friends and family will ‘take sides’ as is inevitable and you closely become aware of who is on your ‘side’ but if you are a celebrity like the lovely Nigella then your washing is at the disposition of the World Press, everyone will rake through your intimate secrets and hang them out to dry for everyone to see because apparently they have a ‘right’ to do so.
So we were told she snorted some coke – big deal, so has half of London and so what? Her life, her body and she wasn’t hurting anyone. There is worse out there people are we really going to drag her through the mud for that?
This is completely my opinion as I don’t know Nigella or Mr Saatchi personally but having seen snaps of her wearing a burka in the sea a couple of years ago (odd?) and the strangling shot this summer my guess is she’s in a controlling and violent relationship. She managed to leave and that alone is no mean feat but the consequences are she has ‘upset’ him and he now wants to destroy her with his money and his power. He wants her to believe that she is nothing without him.
Well guess what Mr Saatchi, I don’t agree.
I imagine Nigella is a warm, loving and incredibly inspirational person. It really doesn’t bother me at all if she’s smoked a joint or snorted some cocaine, I couldn’t care less. What I do care about is this woman getting her life and her identity back and finding her feet again after years of abuse from a bully.
So I have treated myself to a copy of her book Kitchen and I shall be making some of her recipes for my family and letting you know how I got on with them.
Good luck Nigella, you are not alone x