Do you take this man?

wedding rings his and hersDear Paul,

Today, after more than 8 years together, we’re going to tie the knot and get married. Possibly the most important day of our lives apart from the birth of our beautiful twins who have brought us so much joy since their arrival.

I won’t have a speech today, that’s left to the blokes and I’m happy for that but this is my space and this is where I want you to be able to look and hear how much I love you and how I am so looking forward to spending the rest of our lives together.

I love the way you can read me; you know when I’m sad, worried and can tell immediately when something is not right. This is a rare quality in a person and your insight has always taken my breath away, you are always cunningly spot on and I love you for it as it allows me to talk rather than bury my thoughts.

For better and for worse

Life’s a funny old thing, one minute you’re riding a wave and enjoying the good life and the next, times are hard, money is hard come by and we have to go without the nice treats that add sparkle to life. This we have experienced, having gone from two wages and enjoying holidays in the states to one wage and a SAHM with twins. We’ve had to step back on a lot of extras but we’ve always had each other. I love our complicity, how we make the best of a situation and get on with it. I’m looking forward to being with you and enjoying the important things in life, our families and there’s an awful lot of us!

In sickness and in health

Both you and I are blessed with good health but we have both seen how fate can come down like a ton of bricks and take dear ones from you when it’s least expected. Having seen this happen I want you to know that nothing in this whole world is more important to me than you, my children and now my grandchildren too.

Thank you for allowing me to get over to Italy and see my Tom, my Meg and their families. You know how much I adore them and miss them.

Until death do us part

I thank you Paul for staying by my side, even when I made mistakes that cost you dearly. I thank you for listening to me and supporting me and I thank you for loving me with that enormous heart of yours.

I want you to know that I think you are the best father, the best partner and now husband I could have ever hoped for, I hope life is kind to us and we get many, many happy years to enjoy together.

I love you Paul and in you I have found my soul mate, here’s to the rest of our lives


Marianne xxx


  1. Glenys Harris says

    Lovely words Marianne. Hope you and Paul have a great day and love and best wishes for the future to a fantastic couple. Xx

    • says

      Thank you so much Glenys – I had my shilling in my shoe and Jay (the photographer took them off to photo them as I was getting ready. I’ve kept my shilling in my jewellery box to lend to my children as they in turn get married – thank you so much xxx

  2. Bex @ the mummy adventure says

    beautifully written. enjoy your big day and i wish you a lifetime of happiness together x x x

  3. Notmyyearoff says

    Hope today goes perfectly. These are really lovely words. This would be your speech if you were doing one :)

  4. Mammasaurus says

    How lovely – you romantic you. That brought a happy tear to my eye. Have a wonderful day and best wishes to carry on a happy life together x

    • says

      Thank you Annie, we both know that relationships need constant nurturing but in Paul I’ve found someone I can really work with as we have the same goals in life x

  5. Kat says

    That is such a beautiful post, Mari. May you have happiness and love every day together. Have a wonderful day lovely lady xxx

  6. HPMcQ says

    what a wonderful post. May you have more betters than worse, more health than sickness and a long life together side by side x

  7. caro_mad says

    This is so sweet it had me crying. I wish you both the most beautiful and memorable wedding day you can imagine and many happy years to come x

    • says

      Thank you KJS it’s lovely to see you again, as life returns to normal I shall pop over for a read soon, the wedding did overtake my life these past couple of months xx

  8. thatfamilyfeeling says

    I too recently got married to a man named Paul who is also my soul mate. This is beautiful and I wish you many more years of happiness.

  9. Franglaise Mummy says

    I discovered your blog post through the Britmums carnival and I just had to comment. This is such a lovely post and such a lovely thing for you to both be able to keep and come back to again and again. It’s my 10th wedding anniversary this year and 10 years on I still feel this way at my soulmate husband. Enjoy the next 10 years and more!

    • says

      Thank you for coming by – I aim to check them all out as soon as the last family member has left the house. I’m so pleased I did this and maybe with the big 10 coming up – you can do the same?


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